You’re at your desk, writing an email and minding your own business, when you overhear your officemates chatting nearby. They’re casually discussing climate change, a topic you’re passionate about. You could weigh in and drop some serious knowledge on them, but if you do, you’re likely to be engaged in a debate. Should you resist the urge or jump into the fray? It’s a tricky question. After all, there’s a reason religion and politics have long been considered taboo in polite conversation.
The social dynamics of sensitive issues
Few subjects rival politics in the Things that Make Us Twitch department. Political topics are polarizing. Powerful cultural phenomena cause us to hold fast to our positions, which can make political debates emotionally charged. For example:
- The Dunning-Kruger effect is a cognitive bias that says the less skilled or knowledgeable you are, the more likely you are to . People with serious gaps in their knowledge of government and policy, for instance, are likely to assume they know more than they actually do.
- Confirmation bias happens when we prefer or seek out information that confirms our existing beliefs. The Wall Street Journal’s “” is an excellent tool for observing the effects of this bias on the political articles liberals and conservatives share on social media, each with very different perspectives.
- The bandwagon effect is the responsible for the emergence of fads and trends. The more people adopt an idea, and the more popular it becomes, the more likely we are to hop on the bandwagon, too. Our tendency toward groupthink can make it challenging when our political opinions differ from everyone else’s.
The do’s and don’ts of talking politics at work
The social dynamics that affect our opinions on these issues make navigating the turbulent waters of political talk at work a challenge. Avoiding conflicts requires a little self-control and a lot of finesse. Here are a few do’s and don’ts.
Do remember that politics are personal and talking about them can be stressful
Whatever strong opinions you hold, it’s possible your colleagues have equally strong opinions that may or may not match your own. , one in four younger workers (ages 18-34) report feeling stressed or unproductive as a result of political talk in the office. The APA also discovered that more than half (54 percent) of American workers actively avoid discussing politics at work. Twenty percent admitted to avoiding coworkers because of their political views. So, before you spout off about foreign policy, consider whether you’re about to make a domestic faux pas by bringing up topics that make your coworkers uncomfortable.
Don’t let your guard down on social media
There’s a reason you often see phrasing like “opinions are my own and don’t reflect the views of [company]” on Twitter profiles—social media is a public soap box, and the people you work with may well be paying attention when you take to that stage.
According to a , “For private employees, who account for about 85 percent of the work force, the First Amendment’s guarantee offers no protection from being fired for something you’ve said, either in the workplace or outside of it, as on social media.” It’s important to not only know your company’s policies about social media, but to understand your workplace culture. If your colleagues aren’t spouting political views on Facebook, for example, you might want to play it safe when it comes to sharing your own political views on a social platform, or at least limit the audience you share them with.
Do engage others with respect
There are gentler ways of engaging in political discourse. According to research from the , actors who used four simple skills when talking about heated topics were significantly more likely to be seen as diplomatic, likeable, and knowledgeable. (Conversely, people labeled the actors as “abrasive” and even “ignorant” when they neglected to employ these skills.) Those who successfully engage in political talk focus on learning (“I’m curious about why we see things so differently. Would you share your position with me?”), ask for permission (“Would it be okay if I told you more about my perspective on this issue?”), show respect (“I don’t assume I’m right. I value your insight on this.”), and focus on common ground (“Let’s figure out the goals we have in common and work from there.”)
In other words, don’t challenge people to look at things from your point of view, challenge yourself to see things from theirs. If you must talk politics at work, practicing these skills will help you maintain better relationships with your coworkers.
Don’t tackle heated issues
Discussions about things like foreign trade or taxes generally don’t push buttons, but if you decide to dig into issues like reproductive rights or same-sex marriage, you’re treading on dangerous territory. There are some political topics that have no place in office conversation. Ever.
How do you know if a topic is too hot to handle? Consider whether it’s connected with moral or religious beliefs. These issues are so deep-seated and personal that they almost always arouse strong emotions.
Do know when to walk away
Regardless of whether you were the one to broach the topic or the topic came to you, it’s okay to walk away from a political discussion. If you feel your hackles rising, step back before you become pushy, defensive, or argumentative. Be polite, firm, and direct. Take personal responsibility for backing off rather than suggesting the other person is upsetting you. You might say: “I’m not comfortable discussing this. Can we just agree that we see things differently?” If that’s not quite your style, deflect with a little non-political humor: “Hey, let’s talk about what’s really important today. Are there any bagels left in the breakroom?”